by garaj | Aug 18, 2023 | Uncategorized
I’m in a Fitbit group. There are 10 of us, and each week we have a competition to see who can do the most steps. We congratulate each other for our wins, encourage each other when it’s hard, and are seen in our glory when we take the trophy. The external validation I...
by garaj | Aug 18, 2023 | Uncategorized
The research tells us that to improve children’s behaviour and educational outcomes, we should apply the 5:1 ratio of praise. This means that for every criticism or reprimand, we need to praise them or offer positive feedback five times. In the classroom, this...
by garaj | Aug 18, 2023 | Uncategorized
‘Join a hiking club!’ My friend enthused. ‘You’re a singer! You could join a choir, or an art group! Volunteer work! Or take a holiday, you might find you want to travel again. Change careers! You could be a teacher. Why not go back to study? Why don’t you go to...
by garaj | Aug 18, 2023 | Uncategorized
The word ‘triggered’ is used in many ways, to describe anything from discomfort to extreme PTSD flashbacks. For this article, I’m adopting this definition from Healthline: ‘something that affects your emotional state, often significantly, by causing overwhelm or...
by garaj | Aug 18, 2023 | Uncategorized
While we primarily think of bullying as something that happens to children in the schoolyard, it is, unfortunately, something that many people continue to experience as adults. Being bullied at work can leave us feeling helpless, disempowered, and fearful, and may...
by garaj | Aug 18, 2023 | Uncategorized
First, let me assure you that I’m not here to suggest that in the face of trauma, you force a smile in the mirror, grit your teeth and mutter “I am happy and fulfilled! I am calm and relaxed!” I don’t advocate for denial of reality or invalidating your own pain. Far...
